welcome to my pile of pebbles!!!!

why pebbling??

pebbling is the act of offering small, meaningful objects or gestures to establish social bonds, observed in both animal behavior and human relationships.

both [gentoo and adélie penguins] engage in the act of pebbling to prove their loyalty and interest in each other. for example, adélie penguins spend a lot of time in the water, when one penguin about to enter the ocean, they bring pebbles to their mate to show them they will return. this small yet meaningful gesture reinforces their connection and provides reassurance in their partnership.

pebbling has been metaphorically applied to the human behavior of sending partners, friends, and family members, small gifts, or performing small deeds to let them know you are thinking of them to build social connection. pebbling is an accessible, efficient, and inclusive low-risk form of communication that can provide a validating and comforting emotional impact

any small gesture can be considered pebbling if it contains personal meaning. the item or action may reflect the recipient's interest, sense of humor, knowledge, or an aspect of their relationship with the sender. this act reinforces a sense of being thought of, even in the absence of direct interaction.

as a form of nonverbal communication, pebbling gestures can be used by neurodivergent people, who may not prefer traditional forms of affection. it is considered one of the five neurodivergent love languages, the others being: infodumping, parallel play, support swapping, and deep pressure. these love languages were identified to acknowledge the diverse ways in which neurodivergent individuals experience and communicate emotions.